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Month of no shaving… every month.

I was scrolling through Facebook when I saw someone’s post that caught me off guard. A young man posted, “It’s sad when a woman in my checkout line has more of a mustache than I do.”

A couple of other people joined me in informing him that his thinking was terribly misogynistic, to which he replied, “What? I’m not the bad guy here. I’m the one that has to look at her.”

Because, yes, he believes that’s the fault lies entirely with the woman in his checkout line and not with his view of perfection that he is forcing on her.

His sister commented soon after and deplored his attitude. He replied that “If you were to grow a mustache, I wouldn’t be seen in public with you.”

Because it’s so terrible when mammals like humans grow hair. (sarcasm)

I was disgusted and posted this link to an article that really opened my eyes to how others live. 2012_9$largeimg226_Sep_2012_153458447

A Sikh woman was photographed in her school’s library with a full beard and the picture was posted on the internet. When she found out about the post, she simply replied that it was a good opportunity for others to see how she believed. Everyone responded so well that it seemed like something out of an after-school special.

When Kaur learned of the posting through a friend, she addressed the poster with grace. “I’m not embarrassed or even humiliated by the attention (negative and positive) that this picture is getting because it’s who I am,” she responded.

“I’m a baptized Sikh woman with facial hair. Yes, I realize that my gender is often confused and I look different than most women. However, baptized Sikhs believe in the sacredness of this body – it is a gift that has been given to us by the Divine Being and (we) must keep it intact as a submission to the divine will,” said Kaur. Sikhs are forbidden from cutting their hair as one of five tenets of their faith.

The original poster of the photo later apologized on Reddit, and said that he had met with Kaur, who had grown up in his hometown. “Put simply it was stupid. Making fun of people is funny to some but incredibly degrading to the people you’re making fun of. It was an incredibly rude, judgmental, and ignorant thing to post,” he said.

“Balpreet, I’m sorry for being a closed minded individual. You are a much better person than I am. Sikhs, I’m sorry for insulting your culture and way of life,” he said.

When the Facebook acquaintance saw my link to this story, he became defensive and said, “So, what? Women are getting all hairy now? Is that the new thing? You’re attacking me because I don’t want girls to have facial hair?”

In my opinion, this was a learned response perpetuated by encouragement from his peers who would ordinarily accept such a post and guffaw right along with him. Our outrage threw him off his game and caused a glitch in his “Dreamworld”.

As interesting a case study as he would make, unfriend.

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